Thursday, October 15, 2009

Halloween Memories











The conversation in our home during October has always been about - Halloween Costumes. The kids have always loved to plan their costumes, gather materials, and make something creative. Sometimes there was a theme, sometimes not. For weeks this subject would be discussed. They even had to worry about what the dog would dress like.
In any case, in honor of Ezra, here are some photos to share as we approach Halloween 2009. When I look at these I remember Ezra's creativity, humor, self confidence, passion, and joie de vivre - Ezra had fun doing everything, he truly loved life. He taught me so much, even through something as silly as dressing up for Halloween. Amazing Ezra, here's to you.
Photos: Ezra as an Oompa Loompa (Milo as Groucho Marx) - 3rd grade. The White Rabbit from Alice and Wonderland - Ryan made that nose through a complicated and scary (for me) process that involved taking a mold of Ezra's face which required him to breath out of straws stuffed up his nose for about 20 minutes while it set. I still shiver. Milo was one of the Queen of Heart's cards that was 4th grade. And last year: Tweedle Dee. All the kids got in on the Alice in Wonderland theme last year. Milo was the Dormouse. Luka was the Mad Hatter.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

A New School Year Begins

Excitement and sadness have been in the air of our home this week. As we prepared for the start of a new school year, the excitement built for Milo and Luka, especially for Milo as he is starting a new school this year - middle school!
But of course this excitement is accompanied by our deepest sorrow that Ezra is not starting school this fall. He always loved school so much and looked forward to each new year with great anticipation.
Losing a child causes you to miss that child so desperately - all the time - every day, every second. But certain times are somehow even more painful than others, like a missed birthday, or a graduation, or a summer vacation or the start of a new school year.
Ezra didn't get to go with us to get new school supplies this year and that was sad. We missed him so much. We remembered him running around the store last year, filling our cart with everything from his school list, talking excitedly about what supplies he needed, explaining what pencils he thought were the best, and of course, playing with Milo. Ezra didn't need a new pair of shoes. Ezra didn't try on any of the clothes in the closet to see what fit and what didn't. Milo did that for me and when he tried on some of the things Ezra always wore it took my breath away - he looked so much like Ezra. Ezra didn't get to go to the orientation for new students, etc. So there is lots of sadness intertwined with the excitement and happiness that two of my children are now experiencing.
And so the new school year begins for Luka and Milo and millions of other children and students. I hope everyone is able to enjoy the new school year... The little things, like a new class list, new books and supplies, new pencils, new clothes, and maybe even new shoes. And the bigger things, like a new school, new teachers, new friends and new opportunities. And the biggest thing, LIFE. Hope everyone can enjoy and appreciate being alive this fall.
Photos shown: Milo and Luka posing with Ezra's tiny woodland friends this summer - who accompanied us everywhere we went this summer. And Milo and Ezra on the first day of 4th grade - 2 years ago.



Saturday, July 11, 2009

A Pink Dogwood Tree Planted for Ezra at the Guide Dog for the Blind Campus in Oregon








On Saturday, June 27, 2009, a tree was dedicated in memory of Ezra at the Guide Dogs for the Blind campus in Boring, Oregon. Thank you to everyone who donated money for the purchase of this lovely tree and the beautiful plaque - written in both English and Braille. The tree was planted a month or so ago, but this was the day that we dedicated it. We had some of our puppy raiser friends from Seattle and beyond that were able to come down that day and we met together before attending a guide dog graduation there on campus. All of the puppies were sporting showy pink bandanas which they wore proudly around their necks in honor of Ezra. Our Seattle group leader, Heidi said some lovely words about the tree and Ezra. As most of you know, Ezra's favorite color was pink and he loved dogs, so a pink blooming Dogwood tree was perfect for him, as well as for the location at the guide dog campus. After Heidi's remarks we all enjoyed some ice-cream and had a few minutes to visit before going into the graduation.
Inside, as part of the opening remarks for the graduation, Heidi stood up in front of everyone in attendance to tell a little about Ezra and the tree that was planted at the campus in his memory. It was a lovely tribute to him. Thank you Heidi! The graduation was great as usual, with one of our own Seattle puppies graduating - Chaz and one of our West Seattle puppy friends graduating too - Melissa. Congrats to their dedicated puppy raisers and their new partners! After the graduation they have campus tours and as were outside visiting near Ezra's tree we noticed all of the tour groups stopping at his tree to see this lovely living memorial and the beautiful plaque.
This memorial is very sweet to my family and I. And we look forward to visiting it frequently in the coming years.
As many of you know, our family started raising guide puppies a little over 2 years ago. As a family, we had been discussing getting a dog for some time. We had read lots of books about the different breeds and caring for and training pets. Our pet knowledge was limited to a goldfish or two that we had acquired over the years. Yet, somehow, although not particularly a dog person, I wanted the kids to have a dog and thought it would contribute to the idealic childhood I wanted them to have. Then a dear friend of mine from California - Carolyn, told me about how she and her daughter Megan were going to become puppy raisers for Guide Dogs for the Blind. My first response was that I didn't think this was what I had in mind for our family. Raise a puppy, go through all the hard work of training it, fall in love with it, and then give it away! No thank you. But yet, my interest was peaked and this was a person that I love and respect very much. Ryan and I both like the idea of involving the kids in acts of service within our community, but hadn't thought of raising a dog for this purpose. I began finding out more about the puppy raiser program. When I talked to Ryan about it, his first response was similar to mine, he just wasn't sure this was the right project for our kids and not what he had been thinking of when we had decided to get a dog. We thought we would run the idea by the kids since getting a dog was something we were doing for them.
We brought it up at a family meeting, the words were barely out of my mouth - would you rather get a dog that we will keep as a family pet or raise a guide puppy for the blind. "Raise a guide puppy!!!!" - all 3 kids yelled. Their were screams of joy and the happy dance being performed by 3 excited kids. Wait, a second. "Hold on," I said. "This is a big decision, lets talk about what it means to raise a guide puppy." We told them all the requirements, about how we would all have to follow all the rules and all help in the training and then give the dog away and still the excitement never waned. They were hooked - we would raise a guide dog. In the next few months we went to weekly guide puppy meetings and all 5 of us became certified to raise guide puppies.
At the time, my kids were 9, 9, and 10. In the 2+ years the kids have faithfully attended every meeting, helped with all of the dog training, and become great spokespersons for Guide Dogs for the Blind. They have become amazingly insightful dog trainers and handlers and more compassionate people. They have met and worked with many other wonderful puppy raisers and through them others have become interested in this great organization. At my daughter's middle school this year, the students chose to raise money for Guide Dogs for the Blind after learning about this through my daughter. Because of our involvement with Guide Dogs for the Blind, our lives have become greatly enriched and somewhere along the way we have all become "dog people" which I believe is a very good thing.
So thank you Ezra for shouting with joy at the chance to become a puppy raiser. Ezra always loved helping others, always. He knew he could make a difference in the world. He taught me that every person can reach out and help another, no matter how old or young they are or how much money they have. Everyone can do something for someone else. Thank you Ezra. And thank you to everyone who is helping to keep Ezra's memory alive, it means so much to us.
Photos from top: Ezra & Beckley - after 15 months of training & Family shot w/Beckley - Nov 2008. 3 & 4: Beckley under Ezra's desk on the first day of 5th grade, note the pink socks, and though you can't see it, he is wearing a Guide Dogs for the Blind t-shirt. 5: Ezra, Luka, Milo and Beckley @ the puppy truck in December. 6: Ryan, Art - our current guide pup, Beckley - our career change dog and Luka at Ezra's tree. 7) Puppies at Ezra's tree: backrow - Willy (black), Gideon (golden), and Chaz (in harness); Front Row: Art - (yellow), Fantine, Faraja, and Beckley - our career change pet. NOTE: all the photos on this blog can be enlarged simply by clicking on the individual photo.

Saturday, June 20, 2009

a pink crane for Ezra from McGilvra 5th graders




On Thursday, we went to McGilvra to meet with the two 5th grade classes.  They had planned a great surprise for our family.  Some talented art parents - Dan, Alessandra, and Tom helped the kids think of a tribute to Ezra and then made it happen.  The result is a beautiful steel crane, powder coated in bright pink, with laser cutouts on each wing that read Ezra Sherman 1998 -2009 and pie + unicyles = Ezra on the other.  These parents designed the crane with help from the 5th graders.  The kids earned money to have the components built, Tom welded the pieces, some work was donated by craftsmen who were touched by Ezra's story, and somehow it all came together before the last day of school!  Thank you to all!


These are the same amazing 5th grade friends who gathered together after school the week Ezra was in the hospital and with the help of some loving parents folded 1000 origami cranes and strung them together on strings, I should add that Milo and Luka were also there to help with this most important effort.  
An ancient Japenese legend promises that whoever folds 1000 cranes will be granted a wish, such as recovery from illness. Ezra's friends faithfully completed 1000 of these cranes, strung them together, and hoped they would see their friend recover from cancer.  Although this specific wish was not granted, the love and care from Ezra's friends and classmates strengthened Ezra and his family during a most difficult time.  Several strands of these cranes are now buried with Ezra and the rest are hanging proudly on our front porch.
The crane was dedicated by his classmates.  Joseph read a poem called Hope, by Emily Dickenson.  
Then Ivy and Courtney read a piece they wrote for the dedication entitled "Ezra"  It reads... "Ezra was a friend to anyone and everyone he met.  He had the rare ability to be exceedingly bright, exceedingly kind and caring, and exceedingly funny.  We all remember Ezra for many reasons, but today we are sharing some of the main reasons he was treasured.  Ezra was the sort of friend who would catch you if you fell, then wipe away the tears.  But his funny side showed more often than not.  For instance hiding Jordan's water bottle was one of the small but very memorable moments that shined in his honor.  He had many shining moment in his life.  Although we are deeply touched by Ezra's absence, we know that he deserved the privilege to go to heaven.  From the heart of the 5th grade."  
Then Dan and his trusted assistant Milo, climbed the entrance to the garden and installed the pink crane.  (If you click on any of these photos they will enlarge for better viewing.)
In the garden is a tree that 5th graders planted for Ezra early this year. While the crane was being installed we all placed wishing rocks around Ezra's tree and decorated it with pink flowers.  It was beautiful.  
Because this art work is on public school grounds, it had to be approved by the school district which took some efforts by these parents to jump through all of the appropriate hoops and make sure that this was all done legally.  
Thank you parents and children of the McGilvra class of 2009.  We will never forget you.  We have been strengthened by your love, support, and thoughtfulness.  Peace and Love, kandice and ryan



Friday, June 12, 2009

Broadway Bound May 2009




As many of you know, Broadway Bound has been a big part of our lives these past few years. For those of you unfamiliar, Broadway Bound is a children's theater for kids - ages 5 to 18.  They put on musicals.  Lots of singing, dancing, and acting.  All 3 of our kids have auditioned and performed in many of their productions.  Ezra and Milo have not missed one since they first began 3 years ago.  
 2 weeks before Ezra went to the hospital he performed in the Wizard of Oz with Milo.  Milo was the Mayor of Munchkin Land and Ezra was the Barrister of Munchkin Land.  They sang a duet together and sang and danced in many of the scenes, loving every minute of it.  
A few days later they auditioned for the next Broadway Bound production, "Once Upon A Mattress," to be performed in May.  The cast list came out the day that Ezra got sick and went to the hospital.  He never got to hear what his role would be.  Milo hoped that he would get better in time to perform and was looking forward to telling Ezra what his part was.  
Ezra never got to hear what part had been assigned to him.  He died the next week - during the first week of rehearsals.  It was hard for Milo to continue going to the rehearsals and to perform his first musical without his brother, but he did it.  Thank you to Jimmy and all of the other Broadway Bound staff and kids who provided love and support to Milo during these past few months.  Thank you for dedicating the production to him - we all loved that!
Many of his friends and family were able to come to one of his performances that took place the last week in May.  Thank you to all for coming and supporting Milo and our family!   For Ryan and I, it was definitely hard not to have Ezra up on stage with Milo, though we knew he was there in spirit.  We miss him so much, but are proud of our kids and the way they are going forward with their lives and doing what they can to honor Ezra.  
Milo's bio in the playbill read: This is my 6th Broadway Bound show.  Woof to Art, my guide dog in training, is he sitting next to you?  My performance is dedicated to my twin brother Ezra who auditioned for this show, but died of Leukemia before rehearsals began.  This one's for you.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Yoga Class in honor of Ezra Sherman 5.17.09

A friend and fellow McGilvra Mom - Ann - will be teaching a yoga class Sunday, May 17, 2009 from 1 to 2:30pm.  The class cost is by donation, with all proceeds to benefit Leukemia research in honor of Ezra.
 This "Open Your Heart" yoga class is open to all levels of yoga experience.  It will be held at Lotus Yoga: 4860 Rainier Ave. S. (upstairs) 98118,  in the Columbia City neighborhood of Seattle. 
Special thanks to Ann and to Lotus Yoga.
I hope all will feel welcome to attend.
Thank you to everyone who is doing something to honor Ezra's life and memory, we appreciate your thoughtfulness, energy, and creativity.  

Friday, May 1, 2009

Big Climb Awards: Ezra Team wins "Community Spirit Award" - raises $9,416!!

Last night we attended the Big Climb Awards Ceremony at the Columbia Tower Club - on the 76th floor of the high rise we climbed to raise money for Leukemia.
The awards ceremony was a very cool event.  They combined both Big Climb fundraisers - the one that we participated in on March 22nd, as well as the one that firefighters participated in on March 8th.  The firefighters' climb was just slightly harder than ours.  They climbed in full combat gear.  It is the largest individual firefighter competition in the world.  Both Big Climbs benefit the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society.
The awards party was a formal event with gentlemen wearing suits and firefighters wearing "Class A" uniforms.  We dressed up, Art wore his green guide puppy in training vest. Everyone loved Art.
Awards were presented for top 3 in each category - fundraising, racing, team fundraising and team racing.  
Ezra's team won a special award.  They told a little about Ezra and that he died on February 5, 2009.  They said they got a phone call about a week later from Ezra's 4th grade teacher, wondering if it was too late to get a team together to climb in Ezra's memory. Although Ezra's team was one of the last to sign up, we ended up being in the tenth place for the largest team and 10th place for fundraising - out of hundreds of teams.   Most teams signed up and began fundraising in October 2008, while Ezra was happily living his life.  Ezra's Team had 38 members and raised $9, 416.00.  So our award for was for making it into the top 10 in just over one month.  
HUGE Thank you to everyone that so generously supported our team.  Money raised goes to blood cancer research and aid to current patients living with blood cancers.
Milo was our winning fundraiser, with $1,158.00 - Another HUGE thank you to everyone who donated to him.  He was enormously proud that he could lead our team in this area.
Our family attended the Awards event along with one of Ezra's 5th grade teachers, Ms. C and one of his classmates - Ivy.  It was a great night.  We shared a table with a firefighter that was very impressed with Milo's Big Climb accomplishments in honor of his brother.  Actually more than one firefighter stopped to congratulate Milo, which was very cool.  What can you say about a firefighter all dressed up in a formal uniform, holding a trophy or two, and talking to an 11 year old boy, telling him that they are impressed with him or that they think his accomplishment is cool or that his brother would be proud of him, etc.  A priceless experience.  
So many people have asked me how this fundraiser went, with the economy suffering and all.   The Firefighters raised $640,000 (up $90,000 from last year).  The Big Climb raised about $1,296,000 - final sponsorship money still being counted - (almost $300,000 more than last year).
We had a great experience participating in this event and felt like it was a great way to honor Ezra' s life and memory.  Ezra would absolutely LOVE the Big Climb.  Please consider joining Ezra's Team or pledging us next year, we thank you in advance.  Milo has already started planning for next year's team.  Here we go...